Why Some People Handle Stress Better: Stress-Buster vs. Stress-Magnet
Written by Michelle Ong | November 9, 2024 | Growth, Wellness
Uncover why some people are incredible stress-busters while others seem to attract stress like a magnet.
Stress doesn’t play favorites—it can hit anyone, leaving you wide awake at night or snapping at loved ones over the smallest things. Whether it’s the quick, intense kind that makes your heart race or the lingering stress that wears you down over time, it affects both body and mind. Some people seem to bounce back quickly, while others feel stuck, overwhelmed, or even spiral into depression.
So why do stress-busters sail through tough times, while stress-magnets crumble under pressure? Understanding this difference could be the key to handling stress better yourself.
Stress Triggers
Stress can sneak up on us through everyday challenges that push us out of our comfort zones. It generally falls into three categories—acute, chronic, and traumatic—depending on how intense and long-lasting it is.
Stress can come from both external and internal triggers. External factors are things like a heavy workload, tight deadlines, getting stuck in traffic, or big life changes like moving to a new place or dealing with relationship issues. These are often out of our control, but they can quickly send our stress levels soaring.
Then there are the internal triggers—worries we create in our own minds, like the high expectations we set for ourselves. When we fall short of these self-imposed standards, stress creeps in. On top of that, our health or the health of loved ones can add even more stress, whether it’s dealing with illness or just the worry about well-being.
When stress hits, our bodies go into survival mode, releasing hormones like adrenaline and cortisol to prepare us for action. While this helps in the short term, too much stress over time can wreak havoc on both our physical and mental health—causing problems like insomnia, irritability, or even weakening our immune systems.
Our own habits can also make stress worse. Things like scrolling through social media can lead to feelings of inadequacy, while procrastinating on important tasks can trigger last-minute panic. Unhealthy coping mechanisms like smoking or drinking can also add fuel to the fire.
Recognizing these stress-inducing habits is key to managing them. Check out my list of common bad habits that could be adding to your stress here, and explore some simple, effective ways to overcome them in this post.
Stress-Magnets vs Stress-Busters: What Sets Them Apart?
Some people can handle stress better while others struggle to keep their cool. This difference in stress resilience can be due to factors like genes, upbringing, and the coping skills you have learned.
Some people may possess a naturally calm demeanor or have developed effective ways to manage stress over time.
Let’s break down why some people are stress-magnets and others are stress-busters. See which group you relate to more and where you could improve to handle stress better!
1. Time Management Skills
Poor time management is a big reason why some people feel more stressed than others. If you often procrastinate, overcommit, or struggle to prioritize tasks, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and feel like you can’t keep up.
On the other hand, stress-busters know how to set realistic goals. They break tasks into manageable steps and use tools like daily to-do lists and calendars to stay on track. By organizing their time, they keep things under control and avoid the stress of last-minute chaos.
2. Pessimism vs Optimism
“In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” — Albert Einstein
Do you tend to dwell on problems or focus on finding solutions? When challenges come your way, do you give up or see them as chances to learn and grow?
If you are someone who leans towards pessimism—always expecting the worst, overthinking, and blowing problems out of proportion—stress can easily overwhelm you. But if you are able to stay optimistic, while keeping things realistic, you’re more likely to maintain balance and handle stress with a clearer, calmer mindset. Which one sounds more like you?
3. Coping Mechanisms
“Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.” — Charles R. Swindoll
The way we handle stress often comes down to the choices we make.
Some people choose to reach out to friends and family when things get tough, finding comfort and fresh perspectives through those conversations. Others make time for self-care, whether that’s taking breaks, enjoying hobbies, or simply unwinding, which helps them stay balanced. But if you often skip these things or put them off, stress can quietly build up until it feels like too much.
So, how are your choices impacting your stress? Are they helping you cope, or adding to the load?
Ready to put yourself first? Start prioritizing self-care now with these simple, effective tips from this post! Your well-being deserves it.
4. Boundaries
If you find it hard to say “no” to others, you are not alone. When you are focused on being nice and helpful, it’s easy to forget to be kind to yourself. This can lead to taking on extra responsibilities that leave you stressed and drained. Setting boundaries is essential—it protects your time and energy so you can focus on what truly matters.
Setting boundaries doesn’t mean you are being selfish; it’s about being clear on your priorities. By saying “no” when needed, you are making space for what’s most important in your life.
5. Emotional Mastery
“It’s not the stress that kills us, it’s our reaction to it.” — Hans Selye
Do you find yourself getting overwhelmed by emotions and reacting impulsively when stressed? This can make it harder to manage stress effectively. On the other hand, stress-busters are able to stay calm under pressure and control their emotions, showing strong emotional regulation skills.
If you find yourself struggling to keep your emotions in check and often lose control, don’t worry—you’re not alone. Check out these posts for helpful tips on managing anger and staying calm when stress hits.
6. Need For Control
Do you find yourself needing to know every detail and freaking out when things don’t go as planned? If you are uncomfortable with uncertainty, strive for perfection, or feel like no one else can do a task “the right way,” you’re probably piling on more stress than you realize. The belief of “if I don’t do it, no one will” can make you take on more than you can handle.
Stress-busters, on the other hand, understand that life is unpredictable. They know how to adapt, stay flexible, and adjust their plans when necessary, keeping their stress levels in check.
Take Charge Now
“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” — Lou Holtz
Once you figure out why you get stressed so easily, you can start taking charge by developing healthy habits to keep yourself grounded. The key is finding what works best for you—personalized ways to handle life’s ups and downs with more resilience and ease. It’s about being proactive, not just reactive, so stress doesn’t control you.
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