Embracing Kintsugi: There Is Beauty In Being Broken
Written by Michelle Ong | October 17, 2024 | Growth, Wellness
This is the story of Hana and Kenji, whose seemingly perfect love began to crack. Each coped with the changes differently, offering a lesson on how to embrace emotional wounds and find peace.
Healing from heartbreak can feel impossible, but the Japanese art of kintsugi—repairing broken pottery with gold—offers a powerful lesson. By embracing the cracks and scars, we can rebuild ourselves stronger and more beautiful than before. If you’ve ever felt shattered by heartbreak, this story about Hana and Kenji will show you how to heal and find beauty in your own journey.
There Is Beauty In Being Broken
Hana and Kenji’s relationship began with joy, love, and shared dreams, making them the envy of their small neighborhood. For the first few months, everything seemed perfect, as they bonded over mutual goals and deep affection. But as time went on, the small, seemingly insignificant things in daily life began to cause friction between them.
What started as minor misunderstandings over who would clean up or how they spent their evenings escalated into communication breakdowns. Unspoken grievances festered, leading to arguments over trivial matters like the tone of voice or forgotten tasks. These unresolved issues created a growing sense of dissatisfaction in both of them, though neither expressed it openly.
Hana often felt unheard, and Kenji, sensing her discontent, withdrew rather than confront their issues. The tension led to suppressed anger, with both pretending everything was fine. The cracks in their once blissful relationship deepened, creating emotional distance between them. Small irritations turned into emotional wounds, and Kenji began seeking comfort and validation elsewhere, eventually committing infidelity.
When Hana discovered Kenji’s betrayal, it shattered her. What was once a loving partnership now seemed irreparable, and they went through a painful, bitter divorce. Hana was initially overwhelmed by feelings of anger, betrayal, and grief. Instead of letting her emotions take over, she remembered the kintsugi philosophy her grandmother once told her about, and to embrace her emotional scars instead of feeling bitter or lacking.
This idea became her guiding light through the healing process. She allowed herself to feel the pain but didn’t let it define her. By seeking support from friends, family, and therapy, Hana learned to embrace the cracks in her heart as part of her personal growth. Instead of letting anger dictate her future, she chose to focus on resilience and the strength gained from overcoming adversity. Hana’s journey wasn’t just about healing from Kenji’s infidelity, but about rediscovering her own inner strength and capacity for growth despite life’s imperfections.
What Is Kintsugi
Kintsugi, the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold, teaches that imperfections are a part of an object’s history rather than something to hide. This story about Hana and Kenji reflects this idea. In relationships, everything might start out perfect, like a flawless bowl. But over time, misunderstandings, disappointment, and unmet expectations can create differences and bitterness, similar to the fractures in the bowl.
Divorce, like the one in the story, can leave one feeling shattered and lost. However, just as kintsugi turns broken pieces into something beautiful, we too have the choice to pick up our broken parts and create a new, stronger version of ourselves. Hana chose to embrace her brokenness, finding peace and acceptance, symbolizing the kintsugi philosophy. It’s about healing and letting go, not by erasing the cracks, but by embracing them as part of the journey. These imperfections turn into sources of strength, becoming essential pieces of growth that help us move forward with resilience.
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What Do You Think
What do you think of this story? It’s a simple yet powerful reminder of how love, no matter how strong it may seem, can break under the weight of unaddressed issues. Relationships aren’t just about enjoying the good times, but also weathering the tough ones. Like paddling during low tide, love takes patience, effort, and care to sustain.
Hana and Kenji’s story reflects life’s highs and lows, and how essential communication is in holding relationships together. What started as bliss evolved into emotional cracks, leading them to part ways. Kenji, overwhelmed by the cracks in their bond, chose to escape, demonstrating the fragility of the human spirit. Hana, on the other hand, found strength in the kintsugi philosophy—accepting the reality of the broken relationship, embracing her brokenness, finding beauty in her imperfections, and healing through resilience.
“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” – Reinhold Niebuhr
It’s a reminder that even in our darkest moments, we have the power of choice. How we respond to challenges defines whether we rise and grow or remain stuck in pain. By accepting our flaws and taking responsibility, we can turn the tide and shape our future, no matter how broken we feel.
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